Forgiveness is an essential aspect of spiritual growth, release of negative energies & karma and cultivating love and compassion.
Many spiritual traditions emphasize the importance of seeking forgiveness as a means of purifying and elevating our consciousness. It can be seen as a step towards spiritual growth, self-awareness, and inner transformation.
Spiritual growth is possible when we take full responsibility of our life and our past karma that we meet through the difficult incidents in our life. When we do that, we take responsibility, we connect with our eternal life and only then with humility can we approach the Lord.
Here are some ways in which forgiveness can contribute to spiritual growth:
Forgiveness Is a Multi-Dimensional Proces
It involves not only forgiving others who have caused us hurt but also forgiving ourselves and seeking forgiveness from those whom we have hurt knowingly or unknowingly. It can be categorized into three levels:
1. Seeking forgiveness from others: This level of forgiveness involves taking responsibility for our actions and seeking forgiveness from those whom we have hurt knowingly or unknowingly. It's about acknowledging the pain we have caused, expressing genuine remorse, and making amends if possible. It's a humbling process of accountability, reconciliation, and building healthy relationships.
2. Forgiving yourself: Self-forgiveness is equally important in the process of healing. Forgiving ourselves means letting go of self-blame, guilt, and shame for our past actions or choices. It's about showing self-compassion, learning from our mistakes, and allowing ourselves to move forward with self-love and acceptance.
3. Forgiving those who caused hurt: This level of forgiveness involves letting go of resentment, anger, and grudges towards those who have caused us pain. It's about releasing the emotional burden and finding inner peace. It's a courageous act of compassion towards others.
Seeking Forgiveness from Those We Have Hurt in This Lifetime and Previous Lifetimes
We do not remember our past actions, the people who we hurt nor how we hurt them. However, whatever difficult situation we find ourselves in right now it is clear that it is a result of our past actions.
As we connect with our deep pain, loneliness, heartache and brokenness we can be empathic to those souls who went through the same emotions because of our actions.
We can do a daily ritual of taking responsibility for our actions by seeking forgiveness from all those souls we have hurt knowingly and unknowingly. Taking responsibility and seeking forgiveness helps us dissolve our karma.
A Daily Practice of Seeking Forgiveness
Ho'oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice that focuses on healing and forgiveness, allowing individuals to release emotional baggage, resolve conflicts, and achieve inner peace. It is a powerful and holistic approach to personal growth and transformation that addresses the root cause of problems and seeks to restore balance and harmony in one's life.
At the heart of Ho'oponopono is the concept of forgiveness. It emphasizes the importance of letting go of grievances, releasing negative emotions and memories and seeking reconciliation and healing within ourselves and with others. Ho'oponopono teaches that forgiveness is not about condoning or forgetting the past, but rather about releasing the emotional baggage associated with it in order to move forward with a sense of peace and freedom.
It is a gentle yet powerful practice that invites individuals to take ownership of their experiences and actively participate in their own healing and transformation journey.
So through the 4 key statements of Ho'oponopono, you can take responsibility for your own past actions and seek forgiveness from all those souls you have hurt in this lifetime and previous lifetimes. It will bring a great sense of release for you and also dissolve your karma
The four statements of Ho'oponopono, "I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you''
1. "I'm sorry": This statement reflects taking responsibility for our actions and their consequences. It acknowledges that we may have made mistakes or caused harm, intentionally or unintentionally, and expresses genuine remorse for them.
2. "Please forgive me": This statement is a sincere request for forgiveness from a higher power, the universe, or the affected souls and feel empathy for the pain we have caused. It reflects a desire to be released from the karmic consequences of our actions and to seek reconciliation and healing. It is an expression of humility, vulnerability, and a willingness to make amends.
3. "Thank you": This statement is an expression of gratitude for the opportunity to learn from our mistakes and to grow spiritually. It also reflects an attitude of appreciation towards the higher power, the universe, or the affected souls for their role in our spiritual journey.
4. "I love you": This statement is a declaration of unconditional love and compassion towards all the souls. It reflects a shift towards a higher vibrational state of love, which is considered a powerful force for healing and transformation. It also emphasizes the importance of cultivating a mindset of love and forgiveness in all aspects of our lives.
Practicing these four statements of Ho'oponopono regularly is also seen as a way to align with the principles of karma by taking responsibility for our actions, seeking forgiveness, expressing gratitude, and cultivating love and compassion towards all the souls.
You can say these 3 times in your morning routine or before going to bed. Say in the mood of repentance and empathy connecting with those souls who you have hurt knowingly or unknowingly in this lifetime or previous lifetimes.
Why Forgiving Ourselves Is Important?
Forgiving ourselves is an essential aspect of self-love and self-care. Many people tend to focus on forgiving others but often overlook the importance of forgiving themselves. Just like how we forgive others for their mistakes or shortcomings, it's equally important to extend the same grace and compassion toward ourselves.
However, forgiving oneself can be challenging as we tend to hold ourselves to high standards and often carry guilt, shame, or regret over past actions or decisions. Also as we try to come to terms with the reality of our own karma that has caused our present situation. It becomes hard for us to accept that we could have been emotionally abusive, narcissistic, toxic, gaslit, used innocent people in our previous lifetimes.
Here are some reasons why forgiving ourselves is important:
These Are Some of the Things You Can Do to Forgive Yourself
Being able to forgive yourself requires empathy, compassion, kindness, and understanding. Take some time for self-reflection and acknowledge the mistake or situation that you are struggling to forgive yourself for. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that come up without judgement or criticism.
Whether you’re trying to work through a minor mistake or one that impacts all areas of your life, the steps you need to take in order to forgive yourself will look and feel the same.
1. Speak it
"I forgive myself for....". Say it out loud. Write it down. Remind yourself of it when you are feeling weak or sad about the mistake you made.
Use other phrases you find helpful to get you through hard moments. “I’m a good person,” “Mistakes are a part of life,” “I love and forgive myself.”
2. Think of each mistake as a learning experience
Think of each “mistake” as a learning experience. This holds the key to moving forward faster and more consistently in the future.
Reminding ourselves that we did the best we could with the tools and knowledge we had at the time, will help us forgive ourselves and move forward.
3. Dialogue with your inner critic
Engage in a dialogue with your inner critic, which is the voice inside you that may be holding onto self-blame, guilt, or shame. Write down the critical thoughts or beliefs that arise, and then respond to them with a compassionate and rational perspective.
Challenge the negative self-talk and offer yourself understanding and forgiveness.
Reflect on how the situation or mistake has impacted you emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Write down your thoughts, feelings, and any insights that arise during the process.
"What were the underlying beliefs, expectations, or emotions that influenced my actions?", "What could I have done differently?", "What have I learned from this experience?", "What steps can I take to make amends or move forward?".
5. Get clear about what you want
If the mistake you made hurt another person, you need to determine the best course of action. Do you want to talk to this person and apologize? Is it important to reconcile with them and make amends?
6. Show kindness and compassion
If your first response to a negative situation is to criticize yourself, it’s time to show yourself some kindness and compassion. The only way to begin the journey to forgiveness is to be kind and compassionate with yourself. This takes time, patience, and a reminder to yourself that you’re worthy of forgiveness.
Be patient with yourself and practice self-compassion along the way. By engaging in these exercises and actively working towards self-forgiveness, you can release yourself from the burden of the past and create a more positive and fulfilling relationship with yourself.
Healing yourself, bearing witness to your emotions and pain needs time and patience. Once you are through with your own healing, you may reach a point when you want to forgive the narcissist in your life.
Forgiving Them does not mean:
You forgive because you accept responsibility for your karma and you want to let go the burden of the resentment and the pain from your body and mind. You forgive them because you want to move ahead in your life. You forgive them because they are only an instrument of your karma- a deliverer of your karma. You also forgive them also because you have hurt them in some past lifetime in the same way as you are hurting now.
Daily Practice to Forgive them
Remember that , the ones who hurt you have the same soul as we do , but they are also entangled in their own karmic reactions . Therefore, you can use the same routine with Ho-ponopono prayer and also offer it towards the narcissist in your life and and to all those souls who have hurt you.
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