Narcissists/Toxic People - Will they ever get their Karma?

Will the narcissist ever get their Karma for how badly they treated you? Does Karma ever catch up with them? They seem to have a good life.

I had done a podcast on this topic a few months ago. Find below all the details I had discussed there. I hope you find it useful.

Recognizing the abuse, emotional neglect, and neglect of your personhood can be overwhelming as you recover from a relationship with the narcissist.

It is difficult to deal with someone who is constantly using you for their own goals and aspirations, treating you as if you don't exist, your emotions and desires don't matter. They try to erase your identity, sense of purpose, and confidence in yourself through gaslighting. You may feel confused about who you are, every opinion you have, and your own version of reality due to the constant criticism and gaslighting. You may also feel angry with yourself for not protecting yourself better, and like a fool for not realizing the situation sooner.

In addition to the emotional turmoil, it can be difficult for others to understand what you've been through, as they may not have experienced anything like that. You may feel lonely and hurt, and see the narcissist moving on with their life as if nothing happened. They may be enjoying their relationships, going to parties, vacationing, growing in their career, social status, wealth, and overall happiness, while you struggle to put the broken pieces of your life back together, find your lost pieces, and heal from the confusion, trauma, and anger.

It can be especially hard to see that the person who caused you the most suffering has just left you and is enjoying their life, making you question if there is really any justice in the world, or if the laws of the universe, God, or a higher power even exist. You may wonder if the narcissist will ever face their karma for what they've done to you, as it seems they are getting away with everything and having a great time. It's natural to feel frustrated by this.

The Narcissist Is Suffering Their Karma Every Single Day

Let me tell you one thing: the narcissist is getting their karma every single day. The toxic abuser is getting their karma every single day, because you have to understand their psychology and personality type to understand why they behave the way they do. At their core, narcissists truly hate themselves. They feel defective, have inner wounds and traumas that they don't have the courage to acknowledge or address. They hate this aspect of themselves so much. They disconnect from their true selves and create a grandiose, false self to get attention, resources, and a feeling of power and accomplishment. This false self allows them to numb the pain of their true selves and avoid facing their own flaws and weaknesses.

However, this false self can never bring them a sense of happiness or fulfillment. They remain frustrated and unfulfilled in their lives and seek more and more stimulation to feel whole. They may feel happy temporarily when they achieve certain milestones, but it is always short-lived. They never feel a natural sense of wholeness or satisfaction in just being themselves and accepting themselves as they are.

When they don't have narcissistic supply, or the attention and validation they crave, they experience withdrawal symptoms similar to a drug addict. They try to self-medicate to escape their inner trauma, and when the effect of their chosen "drug" wears off, they need more and more to fill the void. It's like a never-ending cycle of needing more and more stimulation to feed the false self.

That self that is feeling lacking and that self that is trying to project the image of "I am the best and I am the most wonderful person on this planet" is constantly looking for external stimulation, approval, buy-off, and praise. They are constantly on the hamster wheel, running and spinning themselves, trying to get all of that so they can feel full again. This, to me, is true suffering.

Feeling Incomplete and Wanting All the Time: The Suffering Is Great

This is such great suffering where you are not even connected to your own wholeness, inner peace, or source, but are constantly looking for stimulation outside. When you get it, you feel good, but when it's not there, you feel worthless, wounded, and defective all over again. Narcissists have no sense of inner happiness, wholeness, satisfaction, or connection with a higher power or others. They are always lacking, feeling limited, competing, and living in fear and pain. They reject their true selves and push others away, and as they grow older, they've used and abused so many people that they have nowhere to go and must finally face their inner selves.

Karmically, according to the Vedic scriptures and our own observations, their actions of hurting, abandoning, and betraying others will give them major reactions. Some of these reactions may come in this lifetime, while others may come in future lifetimes. Karma will act on them and come at its own timing, but the question is: how will it help you in your healing, becoming whole, surviving, thriving, and growing? Will it give you a sense of justice and closure, or will it make you feel better about yourself? Will it make you feel less alone and more connected to your own inner peace and source?

Don't Hold Off Your Healing While Waiting for Them to Get Their Karma

Why do you want them to suffer? Perhaps, it's going to give you a sense of closure and a sense of revenge, but really, I think the question you need to ask yourself is: is there really a connection between your own healing and the narcissist getting their karma? If you have established a connection, that means you're telling yourself that I'm not going to allow myself to heal from this abuse, this attack on my identity, this shaking me to the core, this confusing me, this me losing my bearings until they suffer in the same way.

"I'm not going to heal from all of that unless the narcissist gets their karma". Why would you do that to yourself? Why would you wait for someone to get their karma and then start your healing? Rather, this entire energy of wanting to get their karma, waiting to see them suffer, or hoping they realize what they did to you, is not productive.

I don't think you really want them to suffer as much as you want them to realize what they did to you. So, if they go through pain, they may realize it, but again, there's a big 'may' over there. I have not seen any of them realize anything. They may also be suffering and getting the reaction to their karma, but you still never know. Nobody popularizes that, right? Nobody goes and puts it on their Facebook that, 'Hey, I'm getting a reaction of my karma. I did this to so-and-so and I'm not getting a reaction.' Usually, embarrassing situations are not put on Facebook or Instagram. They are usually dealt with in private.

So, don't hold off on your healing while waiting for them to get their karma. Our true growth is in elevating ourselves and investing in our own healing - physical, emotional, energetic, mental, intellectual, spiritual - at all levels. And focusing on bringing yourself back to who you used to be, and then looking with your head held high to the growth ahead, to the person you want to become, to the lives you want to contribute to, to the purpose you want to execute. No amount of revenge, no amount of the narcissist going through their own karma, is going to help you grow in any way. Their suffering may give you some temporary satisfaction, but ultimately, your pain is what is sitting with you, and that's what you need to heal. Your growth and your happiness are on you.

Re-direct Your Energy to Your Own Growth and Healing

So, instead of focusing your energy on taking revenge or explaining things to them or telling them how what they did to you is wrong - they're never going to get it, they don't want to acknowledge it - focus on your own healing and growth. That is the most productive use of your time and energy."

Instead, use all of that energy in building yourself, working on yourself, growing psychologically, and achieving all your goals and aspirations. And stay truly connected to your source, to the Lord himself, to the fountainhead of love, the reservoir of love, to the reservoir of energy, to the reservoir of blessings. Keep partnering with God, keep partnering with yourself, and move ahead. You don't need the narcissist to suffer so that you can be successful. You can be doubly, triply more successful and growing really well if you just focus on yourself, on your healing first, on your triggers, on the things that got you involved in the first place. And then learn how to forgive yourself, partner with yourself, love yourself, and take yourself ahead towards massive success.

Something to remember: massive success is the best revenge. So, detach yourself from this need for the narcissist to learn something from their karma and understand that they harmed you. You don't need their approval to know that they harmed you, you know that already. You don't need their approval to validate how they troubled you, you know that already. So, stop waiting for their approval, stop waiting for karma to hit them, and just start focusing on your healing and growth right now.

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