What Happens When the Narcissist Knows You Know Who They Are?

Should you expose/confront the narcissist?

Smita had been married to Ravi for over 10 years when she started to notice some troubling behaviors in him. He would frequently put her down, manipulate her, and take advantage of her kindness. She had heard about narcissism and started to suspect that Ravi might have narcissistic tendencies.

One day, Smita decided to confront Ravi about his behavior. She told him that she believed he had narcissistic tendencies and that she was concerned for his well-being. She expressed her pain at being mistreated and hoped that Ravi would be willing to seek help and make changes for the sake of their relationship.

To her surprise, Ravi reacted with rage. He refused to accept that he had any issues and instead started blaming Smita for their relationship problems. He accused her of being the problem and told her that she needed to change if they were going to stay together.

Smita was devastated by Ravi's reaction. She had hoped that by confronting him, he would be willing to work on their relationship and seek help. Instead, his reaction only made things worse. He started a smear campaign against her in their community, including their faith community, which made it difficult for her to face the world and have any relationship with anyone.

Smita was deeply affected by Ravi's reaction to her confronting him about his behavior. She was confused, hurt, and felt like her reality had been shattered. She had always thought of herself as a confident and strong person, but Ravi's rage and blame-shifting made her doubt herself and her perception of the relationship.

The betrayal she felt from Ravi's reaction was overwhelming, and it took a toll on her emotional well-being. She felt like she had lost the person she thought she knew and loved and was struggling to come to terms with the fact that he was unwilling to take responsibility for his actions and seek help.

Smita's experience with Ravi's narcissistic tendencies made her realize how damaging and insidious this type of abuse can be.

Over time, Smita realized that she could not change Ravi's behavior, and that the best course of action was to focus on her own healing and well-being. She decided to get 1:1 coaching with us as we specialize in helping people recover from narcissistic abuse. She learned about healthy boundaries and self-care practices.

Through 1:1 coaching with us and support from friends and family, Smita was able to overcome the emotional turmoil caused by Ravi's behavior. She realized that she deserved better than to be mistreated and manipulated, and that she could build a happy, healthy life for herself without Ravi's approval.

While it was painful for Smita to come to terms with the reality of her relationship with Ravi, she ultimately found the strength to move forward and create a better life for herself. She learned that sometimes the best way to help someone with narcissistic tendencies is to focus on yourself and your own healing.

Smita was a classic empath, and through getting 1:1 coaching for herself and her own behavior, she became an evolved empath.

Why Do Empaths Feel the Urge to Tell the Narcissist That Their Narcissistic Tendencies Stand Exposed to Them?

Empaths are individuals who are highly attuned to the emotions of others and are often driven by a desire to help people. When an empath is in a relationship with a narcissist, they may feel frustrated and hurt by the narcissist's behavior. They may feel that if they can just make the narcissist understand how their behavior is affecting others, the narcissist will change.

Additionally, empaths may have a strong need for authenticity and honesty in relationships. They may feel that it is important to speak the truth, even if it is painful. They may feel that by telling the narcissist that they are a narcissist, they are being honest and authentic.

However, it's important to note that telling a narcissist that they are a narcissist is unlikely to lead to positive change. Narcissists are unlikely to accept responsibility for their behavior or seek help for their issues. In fact, it may make the situation worse, as the narcissist may react with rage, run a smear campaign, enlist flying monkeys or further manipulation.

It's important for empaths to recognize that they cannot change a narcissist's behavior, and that the best course of action is often to focus on their own well-being and seek support from others.

What Happens When You Tell a Narcissist You Know What They Are? When You Tell Them You Have Figured Them Out?

1. The Narcissist's Rage

When a narcissist realizes that you have figured out their true nature, they may react with rage. This is because their sense of control has been threatened, and they cannot handle the idea of losing power over you. The narcissist may become verbally abusive, physically aggressive, or emotionally manipulative to try to regain control.

2. Why Do Narcissists Get Enraged?

The reason why narcissists get so enraged is that they have an inflated sense of self-importance, and they believe that they are always right. Any suggestion that they may be wrong or flawed is a direct attack on their ego, and they cannot handle it. They feel entitled to having control over others, and when that control is challenged, they can become violent.

3. Further Torture by the Narcissist

Once the narcissist knows that you are aware of their true nature, they may torture you further with gaslighting, manipulation, and emotional abuse. They may use your vulnerabilities against you, and they may even try to make you doubt your own sanity. This can be a very damaging and traumatic experience, and it's important to seek help if you are struggling to cope.

4. Smear Campaigns and Flying Monkeys

Narcissists may engage in a smear campaign against you once they know that you are aware of their true nature. They will spread lies and rumors about you to discredit you and make themselves look better. They may enlist the help of flying monkeys, which are people who they have manipulated into supporting them. These flying monkeys can be friends, family members, or even strangers who are sympathetic to the narcissist's cause.

5. Why Do Flying Monkeys Work for Narcissists?

The reason why flying monkeys work for narcissists is that they are often afraid of being on the receiving end of the narcissist's wrath. They may also be under the illusion that the narcissist truly cares about them, and they do not want to believe that they are being manipulated. Additionally, some flying monkeys may simply enjoy the drama and attention that comes with being involved in a conflict.

6. Protecting Yourself from Narcissistic Abuse

If you find yourself in this situation, it is important to protect yourself. Exposing the narcissist and telling them that you know their true nature may not be the best strategy. This is because they will likely retaliate and try to make your life even more difficult. Instead, focus on protecting yourself and living your life. Seek support from friends and family who understand what you are going through. Educate yourself on narcissistic abuse and learn how to set healthy boundaries.

7. Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

It is also important to seek professional help if you are struggling with the effects of narcissistic abuse. A Team EASE Life Coach can help you work through your emotions and help you develop a plan for moving forward. Healing from narcissistic abuse can take time and effort, but it is possible to move forward and live a happy, healthy life. Remember, the best strategy is to take care of yourself and not engage with the narcissist's manipulations.


When an empath is in a relationship with a narcissist, they may become focused on the narcissist's behavior and feel the need to expose them. However, it's important to recognize that focusing on the narcissist is unlikely to lead to positive change and may actually make the situation worse.

Instead, the empath should focus on healing themselves from the effects of abuse. This may involve seeking life coaching or support from others, learning about narcissistic abuse and how it affects people, and working on developing healthy boundaries and self-care practices.

It's also important for empaths to work on overcoming their vulnerabilities and strengthening themselves. This may involve learning to identify and assert their needs, building their self-esteem and confidence, and developing a strong sense of self-worth.

Finally, empaths can work on developing themselves in other areas of their life. They may focus on developing their career, pursuing hobbies or interests, or building strong relationships with supportive friends and family members.

By focusing on their own healing and growth, empaths can break free from the cycle of abuse and regain control of their lives. This may involve letting go of the need to expose the narcissist and instead focusing on building a happy, healthy life for themselves.

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