Stop Waiting for Closure in Difficult Relationships, Set Yourself Free

Learn why waiting for closure and justice from a narcissist is a futile effort and how to find solace and healing through self-validation

Waiting for closure and justice from a narcissist is a futile effort because it is unlikely to happen. It is natural to want validation and acknowledgement of our pain from those who have hurt us, but in the case of narcissists, this is unlikely to occur. Narcissists lack empathy and are not capable of recognizing the harm they have caused. Waiting for them to realize their mistakes and apologize is only going to prolong our suffering and keep us stuck in a cycle of pain and disappointment.

Furthermore, our need for their validation is a reflection of our own insecurities and desire for approval. We must learn to love and accept ourselves, to connect with our own needs and emotions, and to give ourselves the approval and validation we seek from others. We are perfect just the way we are, and we do not need someone else's acknowledgement to validate our worth.

Closure does not always come in the form of an apology or acknowledgement of wrongdoing. Closure is recognizing the ways in which the narcissist gaslighted us, disrespected our boundaries, disregarded our feelings and needs, and failed to fulfill their part in the relationship. It is accepting that the relationship was not healthy and moving on from it.

Give Up the False Hope

Our need for closure often stems from the false hope that the narcissist will one day realize their mistakes and come back to us with the love and respect we deserve. However, it's important to remember that a narcissist is unlikely to change, and waiting for them to do so is only prolonging our suffering. In fact, it's highly possible that they will continue to manipulate and abuse us if we give them the chance. Instead of waiting for closure or justice from them, it's important to focus on healing ourselves and finding happiness in other areas of our lives. We can find solace in meaningful relationships with family and friends, in pursuing our passions and hobbies, and in connecting with our spirituality and faith.

Client Story

I remember working with a 1:1 client who had just gone through a divorce from a narcissist. She constantly felt guilty and wondered where she went wrong. She held on to the hope that one day the narcissist would realize his mistakes and come back to her. After a few months, she heard that he was getting married again, and that made her upset and angry. But that act of his forced her to give closure to herself. She remembered how his behavior never changed despite her multiple requests, and how he gaslighted her every step of the way.

They Have Shown You Who They Are

The truth is, the closure we seek is every time they gaslighted us, disrespected our boundaries, ignored our feelings and needs, and didn't play their part in the relationship. Waiting for them to realize their mistakes and apologize is like waiting for a miracle that may never happen. Instead, we must find solace in meaningful relationships around us, nurture ourselves, and most importantly, remember that we have God's unconditional love and acceptance.

Instead of waiting for closure or karma to get them, we can find solace in meaningful relationships around us, in nurturing ourselves, and in God's love for us. We can surround ourselves with people who love and support us, engage in activities that bring us joy, and practice self-care and self-compassion. We can also find comfort in the belief that God loves us unconditionally, regardless of our flaws and mistakes. Ultimately, we must recognize that we have the power to heal ourselves and move forward, and we do not need someone else's approval or validation to do so.

Conclusion

So, if you're struggling with closure from a narcissist, know that you're not alone. Take time to reflect on your experiences, acknowledge your emotions, and give yourself the closure you deserve. Don't wait for someone else to validate your pain and experiences. You have the power to heal yourself and move forward with love and compassion.

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